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The Ultimate Guide to a Healthy Sex Life in the UK

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STI Clinic Team

Sexual Health Consultant8 January 2025

Sexual Health: A Foundation for Wellbeing

Sexual health is more than the absence of disease – it's about physical, emotional, and social wellbeing related to sexuality. A healthy sex life involves informed choices, mutual respect, and taking care of yourself and your partners.

This guide covers everything you need to know about maintaining sexual health in the UK.

Understanding Sexual Health Services in the UK

NHS Sexual Health Services

The UK has excellent free sexual health services:

Sexual Health Clinics (GUM Clinics)

  • Free and confidential
  • No GP referral needed
  • Walk-in or appointment options
  • Comprehensive testing and treatment
  • Contraception services
  • Anonymous if you prefer

What They Offer

  • STI testing and treatment
  • Contraception advice and provision
  • Emergency contraception
  • Pregnancy testing and options
  • HIV testing and support
  • PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) for HIV prevention
  • Hepatitis B vaccination

Finding a Clinic

  • Search "sexual health clinic near me" on NHS website
  • Call NHS 111 for guidance
  • Many clinics offer online booking

GP Services

Your GP can also help with:

  • STI testing (though some may refer to specialist clinics)
  • Contraception
  • General sexual health advice
  • Referrals to specialists

Online Services

Many areas offer online STI testing:

  • Order test kits to your home
  • Free through NHS in many regions
  • Private options also available
  • Results by text/email or online portal

Essential Protection: Condoms and More

Condoms

Why They're Important

  • Prevent most STIs
  • Prevent pregnancy
  • No side effects
  • Available everywhere

Getting Condoms

  • Free from sexual health clinics
  • Free from many GP surgeries and pharmacies
  • C-Card schemes for under-25s (free condoms)
  • Buy from pharmacies, supermarkets, online

Using Them Effectively

  • Check expiry date
  • Use correct size
  • Use from start to finish
  • Water-based or silicone lubricant only (with latex)
  • New condom for each act

Female Condoms

  • Alternative to male condoms
  • Can be inserted before sex
  • Same protection against STIs and pregnancy
  • Available from clinics and some pharmacies

Dental Dams

  • For oral sex on a vulva or anus
  • Reduce STI transmission
  • Can use a cut condom as alternative

Contraception Options

Sexual health includes reproductive choices. UK options include:

Long-Acting Reversible Contraception (LARC)

Most effective methods:

  • Implant: Small rod under skin, lasts 3 years
  • IUS (hormonal coil): Lasts 3-8 years depending on type
  • IUD (copper coil): Lasts 5-10 years
  • Injection: Every 8-13 weeks

Other Methods

  • Combined pill
  • Progestogen-only pill
  • Contraceptive patch
  • Vaginal ring

Emergency Contraception

  • Morning after pill: Up to 3-5 days after unprotected sex (sooner is better)
  • IUD: Up to 5 days after – most effective emergency option

All contraception is free on the NHS.

Regular Testing: The Cornerstone of Sexual Health

Who Should Get Tested

  • Everyone who is sexually active
  • Especially: under-25s (annual chlamydia screening)
  • After every new partner
  • Regularly if you have multiple partners
  • If you have any symptoms
  • If a partner tests positive

What Testing Involves

A standard STI screen typically includes:

  • Chlamydia and gonorrhoea: Urine sample or swab
  • **HIV**: Blood test
  • **Syphilis**: Blood test

Additional tests may include:

  • Hepatitis B and C
  • Herpes (if symptoms)
  • Throat and rectal swabs (based on sexual activity)

How Often

  • After each new partner
  • At least annually if sexually active
  • Every 3 months if you have multiple partners
  • Before stopping condom use with a new partner

Testing Is Confidential

  • Results are private
  • Won't appear on standard medical records in most cases
  • Can be anonymous at sexual health clinics
  • No judgment from healthcare professionals

Communication: The Underrated Protection

Talking to Partners

Open communication is essential:

  • Discuss sexual health and testing
  • Share STI status honestly
  • Agree on protection methods
  • Talk about boundaries and consent

How to Start the Conversation

  • "Before we go further, can we talk about protection?"
  • "When were you last tested?"
  • "I got tested recently – would you be up for getting tested together?"

Making It Normal

  • Treat it as routine, not accusatory
  • Frame it as mutual care
  • Lead by example – share your status first

HIV Prevention: PrEP and PEP

PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)

A daily pill that prevents HIV infection:

  • Over 99% effective when taken as prescribed
  • Available free on NHS for those at higher risk
  • Taken before potential exposure
  • Requires regular monitoring and testing

Who Should Consider PrEP

  • Men who have sex with men with higher risk factors
  • Trans people at higher risk
  • People whose partners have HIV (if not undetectable)
  • Anyone at ongoing HIV risk

PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis)

Emergency medication after potential HIV exposure:

  • Must start within 72 hours (ideally within 24)
  • 28-day course of antiretroviral drugs
  • Available from A&E and sexual health clinics
  • For emergencies – not for regular use

Vaccination: Prevention That Works

HPV Vaccine

  • Offered to all children aged 12-13 in UK schools
  • Prevents HPV types causing most cervical cancers and genital warts
  • Catch-up available for those who missed it (up to age 25)
  • Available for MSM up to 45 through sexual health clinics

[Hepatitis B](/conditions/hepatitis-b) Vaccine

  • Highly effective at preventing hepatitis B
  • Recommended for higher risk groups
  • Available free through sexual health clinics

Hepatitis A Vaccine

  • Recommended for MSM and others at risk
  • Particularly important given outbreaks
  • Available through sexual health clinics

Addressing Common Concerns

"I'm Embarrassed to Get Tested"

  • Healthcare professionals see this daily – it's routine
  • Sexual health clinics are designed to be non-judgmental
  • Home testing kits offer privacy
  • Your health is worth any temporary awkwardness

"My Partner Might Be Offended"

  • Suggesting protection shows respect, not suspicion
  • Frame it as mutual care
  • A good partner will appreciate responsibility

"I Don't Have Symptoms, So I'm Fine"

  • Most STIs have no symptoms
  • You can have and spread infections without knowing
  • Testing is the only way to know for sure

"I'm in a Monogamous Relationship"

  • If you're confident in mutual monogamy AND both tested, risk is low
  • But if there's any uncertainty, testing provides peace of mind
  • STIs can remain dormant from previous relationships

Special Considerations

LGBTQ+ Sexual Health

  • Sexual health services are inclusive
  • Specific services and support available
  • No need to disclose orientation to access care
  • MSM-specific services for PrEP, testing, etc.

Sexual Health Over 50

  • STI rates are rising in older adults
  • Don't assume age protects you
  • Same testing and protection apply
  • Healthcare providers should ask about sexual health at any age

Sexual Health and Disability

  • Everyone deserves sexual health information and services
  • Services should be accessible
  • Advocate for your needs

Building a Healthy Sexual Life

Regular Check-Ups

  • Annual sexual health check (more often if needed)
  • Cervical screening for women (ages 25-64)
  • Know your baseline – then you'll notice changes

Protection Strategies

  • Use condoms with new/casual partners
  • Consider PrEP if appropriate
  • Get vaccinated

Healthy Relationships

  • Consent is essential – always
  • Communication is key
  • Respect boundaries
  • Look after emotional wellbeing too

If Something Goes Wrong

  • Don't panic – most STIs are treatable
  • Seek help promptly
  • Complete treatment as directed
  • Notify partners so they can get treated

The Bottom Line

A healthy sex life is built on information, communication, regular testing, and appropriate protection. The UK has excellent sexual health services – free, confidential, and non-judgmental. Use them.

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